The Monster in the Dark

Monster

I have been sat on this blog post for over a year, I had forgotten I had written it and just stumbled across it and realised it is still relevant. These are just my musings, forgive me if its a bit rambling, I was just going to post my poem but the words poured out …

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Corona, Coercion, Pregnancy and Birth – Part 2

Copy of Copy of HBGUK template

Our members are very supported in group to make their own choices, with our Home Birth Transfer Is NOT A Failure ethos, all our births are celebrated.

Sadly, this support for informed choice is not, in the main supported by their care providers, as their following words show.

Corona, Coercion, Pregnancy and Birth Part 1

Iatrogenic Harm

These snapshot figures from a quick poll in my Home Birth Support Group, should make over arching maternity services hang their heads in shame.

Since coronavirus impacted, I am spending upwards of 60 hours a week in groups, supporting women, against a backdrop of increasing coercion.

Surviving and Escaping Domestic Violence While Pregnant – DV Series Part 1

you are worth

This is the heart breaking, inspiring life story of Zoe Kimpton of Spiritual Services South West – who has proudly told me to use her real name as she no longer lives in fear.  It is rare I have no words – but I have none, I love this woman, I have doulaed for her …

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You are not a “Good Girl” – Birth, Language and Doulas

Dragon Child

Birthing women are not children, they are not 5 years old or 10 or 15, and if they are teenagers, they are at this point in time transitioning very rapidly into womanhood. This is not a good girl either – she is a feisty child with her own mind and her own feelings. She would …

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International Women’s Day, Riverfront, Newport, March 2016.

International Women's Day

Having come back from this International Womens Day event, at the Riverfront, I am all fired up. It was a beautiful emotional day and it made for me crystal clear, something that I already knew, at the moment, women should be able to own their bodies and their births, without argument and coercion, but they …

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Reclaiming Birth For All Women – Planning a Positive Caesarean Birth

Positive Caesarean Birth

(This stunning birth image of Sophies emergence into the world was taken by medical staff at the request of Charlotte and her husband). Birth can be a roller coaster, caesarean even more so – for a woman who has set her heart on a vaginal birth, then the news that this baby is to be …

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A Doula’s Journey 2017

2017

Thank you from this Doula – 2017 has been an incredible ride. I began 2017 intending to take a break – being on call 24/7 for up to 5 weeks at a time is an intense commitment, it is hard on you, on your family and also on your extended network, after all you need …

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Birth Rape – We Don’t Do That Here – Do We? Birth, Doulas and Informed Consent.

Coerced Consent Is NOT Consent.

For International Womens Day 2018. Doulas provide non medical birth support for the childbearing year and beyond. In practice this means we do anything a birthing and newly birthed woman needs. Doulas do a lot – placenta encapsulation, aqua natal, ante natal, positive birth work, post natal work, breast feeding support, new mother support, baby …

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