However it unfolds the dance of birth will follow its tune. You can birth your baby in the way best for you.
I was chatting to my friend Louise about my views around childbirth being a dance between mother and baby, when she casually mentioned that she had some photos taken at 36 weeks. I asked her to send them to me and she did, along with her words about her birth. Never one to miss an opportunity I asked for permission to share – which she gave me.
When Louise initially rang the hospital, on her baby’s due date, no-one believed she had started the process of birthing, she had the impression the ward thought she was a first time mum, over reacting.
Having twice gone into the hospital – to be told she was at 1 cm both times, 12 hours apart Louise was frightened, shaking with nerves and thinking things were never going to move along. The inner core of a dancer was with her though – dancing through the pain is something she had already learned to do. The cervix is not a crystal ball though – how you are now is no sign of how you will be in an hour.
Having been sent home twice, with no pain relief bar co-codamol, Louise mostly went through the birthing process at home.
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When she was finally allowed to remain, on her third visit, she was an incredible 10 cm and had to push and there was no time for gas and air! 20 mins later, 2 hours after her waters had broke in a spontaneous rupture of membranes (SROM), following 24 hours of contractions, gradually getting stronger, her gorgeous 8lb 10 boy was in her arms!
She tells me “I definitely think staying active had a huge part to play in my lovely first time labour”.
Louise believes that she was not believed as a first time mum, but that when the midwives did realise she was in the throes of active birth the midwives could not do enough to help her.
“When I finally did the pushing they were amazing as it was 2am and just 2 midwives and my partner, I felt hallowed and sacred”. Those moments when life emerges are such a magical powerful time.
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Giving birth in the University Hospital of Wales, Cardiff, she went onto stay for 2 days for assistance with feeding and is full of praise for the ongoing feeding support she received.
Look at the slideshow of these powerful images – if there is every proof that women’s bodies are not broken – here it is.
Full image can be seen by clicking on an individual image.
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Samantha Gadsden walks with women on their life’s journeys. She is an experienced Doula, based close to Cardiff in South Wales, mother to 4 children and wife to Eddie, more information can be found on her facebook page, Samantha Gadsden Doula and her website, Caerphilly Doula.
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