“And they never even gave me a up of tea”. The words of many newly birthed women talking about their births in busy hospitals.
Its such a simple sentence with so much meaning. It can mean.
” I was alone”, “I was frightened”, “No-one came”, “I didn’t want to make a fuss”, ” I wanted support”, “I was a good girl so I didn’t ask”.
It means so much more than “they never even gave me a cup of tea”.
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“My waters broke and I started having contractions, it turned out to be not all my waters, so they broke my waters again, I was put into a room and left alone vomiting, in loads of pain, for over 3 hours, with no medical care, the receptionist brought me my gas and air and someone, no idea who, did a pethidine injection. Other than this my partner and I were left by ourselves.
When my midwife finally arrived she was very apologetic but was leaving – I was given a new midwife after handover, by this point I was in so much pain I had no option but to go to epidural.
There was no-one there to console me, to help me, to explain to me what was happening, I had lost it and had no control.
They didn’t even give me a cup of tea”.
As a Doula who works with previous births and does some birth trauma support its important to get to the root of the issue so the healing process can begin. With a doula you are NEVER alone.
I do one off sessions as well as complete Doula packages. Feel free to contact me if you are struggling both birth or in a new pregnancy.
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Samantha Gadsden walks with women on their life’s journeys. She is an experienced Doula, based close to Cardiff in South Wales, mother to 4 children and wife to Eddie, more information can be found on her facebook page, Samantha Gadsden Doula and her website, Caerphilly Doula. SOS Doula, Telephone and online support is always available.
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