Jardine posted her wonderful story in our Home Birth Support Group UK, I love how she used the information and support she got from the Home Birth Group to empower and support her unexpectedly, early, hospital birth.
Here is her story in her own words.
“Well I didn’t get the home birth I dreamed of but I do want to say a big thank you for this group. You are all wonderful and I’ve read so many posts that gave me the strength to make sure I felt confident throughout the birth of my third child. Thought I’d include a run down of what happened because I can’t be the only one who is obsessed with reading other peoples stories and hopefully shows that when plans go out the window, it isn’t always a bad thing.
My waters broke on Wednesday morning, just trickled, I wasn’t even certain it was waters! I was 35+4. I just waited it out for an appointment I had the next day because I was so unsure, just kept a super close eye on movement.
Thursday had consultant appointment, running an hour behind then sent up for checking re waters. They were SO busy, we were waiting hours and I was getting in a state worrying about my children so went home for a couple of hours to sort them out and returned at 7.
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Was seen at 11pm and confirmed waters gone. By this point it had been +24 hours so they said I had to be induced immediately. I started to panic but remembered everything I’ve learnt here and listened and thought. They had no cot available for baby and due to being premature they said we needed to be transferred. I was terrified but rolled with it knowing I could change my mind at any time.
Turns out this was THE best decision that could have been made. I was transferred around 4am to Liverpool Womens Hospital. Saw a consultant there and she was amazing, I felt so involved in the decision and we all agreed it was safe to leave baby where it was happy and wait it out. I agreed to stay in because of how they approached this, it was such a relief after the previous hospital.
My bloods began to show signs of infection so I was booked for induction Sunday. I was scared but at this point infection risk outweighed induction risk. I felt we were making an informed decision.
I spent Saturday reading all of your amazing birth stories, listening to affirmations and trying to stay positive.
Sunday 1.30am I was woken by some light cramping. By 4am they were getting more intense and I alerted the midwife. I agreed to an examination at 5.30am and I was 3cm. Husband managed to get to me around 7, I was already in delivery suite and pains were intense. I was super active throughout and just could not find a position I could stay in.
My legs were really hurting. I felt the transition stage happen and the midwife was impressed I commented on it ?. 4 or 5 minutes later I felt a need to change position, contraction gaps were short and contractions around 30-40 seconds long. I stood up and got a massive urge feeling and a felt a gush of blood.
Standing next to the bed, I leaned over with midwife behind me (thank goodness!) begging me not to push but stayed super calm and very quickly realised that I wasn’t. Our little lady made her grand entrance within the same contraction and luckily midwife caught her and passed her through to me.
Placenta plopped out at 8.51am (the cord wasn’t fully drained but it didn’t drain any further so we cut it shortly after).
She has an unusual mark/bruise on her face which meant she ended up in special care, they were being cautious as they don’t believe it could have happened inside/on the way out and thought she must have caught her head on the bed during the rapid delivery. She’s had many experts scratching their head and everyone keeps assuming she’s a forceps delivery!
Hazel Poppy 3/11/19 at 36+1, 5lb 6oz
Not a home birth but a happy outcome. I think the secret for me was the knowledge and confidence to make informed decisions. Thank you!!”
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It is so important to me that all women and their births are celebrated and important, wherever and however they take place and it gives me great joy when I have helped to support women whose births change their planned pathways.
Samantha Gadsden walks with women on their life’s journeys. She is an experienced Doula, based close to Cardiff in South Wales, mother to 4 children and wife to Eddie, more information can be found on her facebook page, Samantha Gadsden Doula and her website, Caerphilly Doula. SOS Doula, Telephone and online support is always available.
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